Between you and me, have you ever secretly rummaged through your partner's nightstand drawer in the hope or worry of discovering a sex toy? If you didn't find what you were looking for, you're like most men. But this does not mean that your partner is not into sex toys. She just hides it so well that it doesn't fall into hands where it doesn't belong. Not surprisingly, after all, you don't want your sweetheart to know about everything you secretly look at or use either. Too bad you rarely get to take a peek, because you could learn a lot about your partner's preferences from her favorite sex toy. We're going to make it a little easier for you now by introducing you to the girls' favorite toys – which sex toys women find creepy, which ones they love, and what you can take away from the pleasure-givers.
The appeal of sex toys: They are top secret
Not all toys are the same. Just because something vibrates, is waterproof and penis-shaped doesn't make it an orgasm machine. Every woman has her own preferences, but basically girls rarely like toys that men would buy for them. Means: the veined giant dildo or anal chain are probably not in the secret toolbox. And if they do, they rarely use them. According to a study in the US trade magazine The Journal of Sexual Medicine more than half of all women have played with sex toys at least once. In fact, the number is probably much higher, but few women talk about it. Dildo parties are actually more of a fun pastime for bachelorette parties than a serious attempt to find the all-around carefree stimulator. The ladies usually choose it alone – the secret makes among other things the charm of the gimmick.
Popular sex toys for women: There is a suitable toy for every lady
Once a woman has found the right toy, she remains faithful to it for a long time. A good solo sex companion is modest, refined and reliable. The Toy doesn't have to please anyone else but the owner herself. It's like finding Mr. Right: Until a woman has found the right toy, she may try out a lot of things. These can also be giant dildo or love balls. If the expected satisfaction fails to materialize, the devices will soon go to waste in the shoe box and will only be unpacked on special occasions – in other words, hardly ever. But which toys are on top of the hit list? We talked to women about their preferences and show you which toys are sung in praise of and which devices never get under their panties.
You wonder on what occasions and where a woman uses sex toys? One of them told us. More about this later. For now, have fun tracking down the most popular girly toys!
Giant dildo: He makes on fat pants
If your sweetheart's dildo looked like this, you would have discovered it long ago – it doesn't fit in any sock drawer. The monster with suction cup measures a proud 31.5 centimeters, has a diameter of 8 centimeters and brings it to 2.4 kilograms. A gigantic orgasm promises woman from the monster beating guaranteed not. At best, it makes for desperate cries of anguish or there's-no-no-no head shakes. When it comes to masturbation, women are more likely to go for the high-horsepower compact car than the pompous poseur car. How the small strong ones look? See immediately!
Vibrator with clit stimulator: It has two balls in play
This vibrator already speaks a completely different language. The shape is elegant, the length of 17.5 centimeters realistic and the material so cuddly that women love to cuddle with it. Despite the lovely appearance, the modest part contains concentrated power. Cockzilla can only dream of this. Depending on preference, the vibration is adjustable in 6 strengths and rhythms. The knob on the shaft stimulates the clitoris when inserted – is the powerup button, so to speak.
You can take a look at this: Most women climax better during sex when the clitoris is intensely stimulated. But this is not guaranteed in all positions. Different, for example, in the riding position. In this position she can increase the pressure on the clitoris itself by bending her upper body forward. The clitoris is also stimulated in the missionary position when you snuggle close to your beloved's body. If you love in positions in which the erogenous zone is not stimulated, for example in the spoon position, you can help with the hand.
Vibrator with G-spot stimulator: It finds the G-spot
There are women who reach orgasm even better when the G-spot is stimulated in addition to the clitoris. If your partner has a vibrator with a curved shaft tip, she probably belongs to this type of woman. This toy shown here even has 2 separately controllable motors: one for clitoral stimulation, the other for the G-spot.
Here's what you can take away: Indulge the partner during foreplay extensively with the hand, stimulate her clitoris and the G-spot at the same time. The slightly raised G-spot is about the size of a coin and is located about 2 to 3 centimeters behind the entrance of the vagina on the upper vaginal wall. For stimulation, insert one or two fingers, feel a small rough spot, and then gently push toward the abdominal wall or gently tickle. The clitoris, meanwhile, you can pamper with the thumb, the fingers of the other hand or the tongue, depending on your dexterity.
Vibrator with silicone strap: triple seducer
Okay, now you have to be strong, because this candidate can do pretty much everything a woman wants: it stimulates the clit, G-spot, mons veneris and the labia. The silicone strap can be crossed or stretched straight across the mini-vibrator. Why this device is so much fun for women? Because it stimulates the CUV, the newly discovered large erogenous zone consisting of the clitoris, clitoral roots, urethra and vaginal wall. Sounds like a hot favorite for the all-around carefree package. Don't worry: most women prefer sex with their partner over any toy.
Here's what you can look for: Stimulate them extensively. Means: instead of focusing on the clit or the G-spot when pampering your sweetheart, take care of the entire vulva so that it gets a strong blood supply. Massage her labia, caress her mons veneris, circle her clitoris and take several hands and your tongue to help you.
Lay-on vibrator: laid on for clitoral fireworks
This curvy device puts the woman on her vulva. The adjustable vibrations provide pleasant shivers and good blood circulation in the clitoris and vulva. Women are said to buy the sexy flatterer like hot cakes. One thing the companion can't do, however, is penetrate. A woman who only uses such a vibrator for masturbation, the vaginal stimulation is either less important or she additionally uses the fingers or a dildo for penetration.
You can check out: When pampering your sweetheart's vagina, do not forget that her vulva also wants attention. Place one hand on the mons veneris and apply light pressure, then extensively massage her inner and outer labia before turning your attention to the clitoris. The longer this foreplay lasts, the faster she will orgasm during sex.
Pressure wave vibrator: it gets right to the point
Women love handy devices that serve their purpose: the electric toothbrush, the cleansing brush, the epilator. Maybe that's why the pressure wave vibrator (like the Womanizer) is so popular. Or maybe it's because it stimulates the clitoris without touching it at all – as if by magic. The slim device massages with pinpoint accuracy using negative pressure and pulsations – in 11 stages. This novel sex toy is suitable for women who need the intense stimulation of the clitoris for an orgasm and prefer not to lift a finger for it.
You can check this out: It goes without saying: If you find this toy with your partner, you should pay close attention to her clit during foreplay. Surprise her again with some saucy playfulness. For example, tap the hotspot rhythmically with lips and tongue or place two fingers to the right and left of the clitoris and tap up and down as if you were playing the piano. Keep teasing out the game until she demands your best bit.
Vibro egg: this egg is warm and soft bedded
No, this is not a pink tampon and also not a ridiculous ringing love ball – this is a vibro egg. Because massaging the clitoris alone leaves the vagina out, many women like to use this little helper in addition for stimulation. It is inserted into the vagina and can be regulated by remote control (even when you are on the move!). The vibrations stimulate blood flow and also excite the internal roots of the clitoris. Also the perfect travel companion.
Here's what you can get: The owner of the vibro-ice is into stimulation of the vaginal canal and vaginal walls. She likes the feeling of being filled. Experiment with different angles of penetration during sex to reach every part of her vagina. By the way: you don't necessarily have to penetrate particularly deeply, most nerve endings are located just behind the vaginal entrance.
Love Teddy: This one takes the cake
Before you start searching your sweetheart's bedroom for suspicious cuddly toys: this teddy bear with a vibrating snout leaves just about every woman cold. Firstly, she's long out of her teens, and secondly, no smart lady will pay 80 euros for an ugly roommate who wants to get into her pants. "Teddy Love" is definitely one of those sex toys that women hate. Sure, we also like it playful, but please not like this. As usual? Click here!
Finger vibrator: It makes the flutter man
So small, so helpful: With a finger vibrator, a woman can playfully go on a self-experience tour. How do vibrations feel on the clitoris, nipples or backdoor? If the fingerling is also pretty to look at, it's even more fun. But too much kitsch is a turn-off.
You can copy this: Go on an erotic voyage of discovery on her body, reintroduce petting, experiment, don't be stingy with caresses and pay attention to the reactions of your partner. By the way: You can also integrate the finger vibrator into your lovemaking session.
Anal dildo: wagging is not
The women we talked to about their preferences in masturbation rarely mentioned anal satisfaction, or only as a side effect of the vibrations during vaginal stimulation. Most girls only find pleasure in experimenting with their partner. But with a fox tail with glass anal plug the partner must not come to her even then. Because then she either gets a cinematic fit of laughter or doubts the mind of the beloved – probably both. If a woman really wants to go on a journey of anal discovery out of curiosity, she should rather use slim mini-vibrators or a vibro-egg.
When to reach into the toolbox?
We promised to reveal when and where women prefer to have fun with their toys. The ladies answered us quite frankly. As for the place of action, the answers are quite similar to each other. Most said they use the toy in bed, on the couch or in the bathtub (almost all devices are waterproof). The shower was mentioned less frequently. Some ladies even reported the car or the office toilet. When asked when it is time to play, the ladies answered less specifically: whenever they can relax. After waking up, before going to bed or during the lunch break. There is little difference between men and women – or do you always masturbate at the same time of day?
Female sex toys are not competition for a man, but clues to what your partner is into. Most women want intense stimulation of the vagina. To learn even more about your partner's preferences, you can ask her in a quiet minute if she would also indulge herself once in front of you with the sextoy. If so, you should look closely, because before your eyes is revealed the secret that makes you the perfect lover!
- 1 The appeal of sex toys: They are top secret
- 2 Popular sex toys for women: There is a suitable toy for every lady
- 3 Giant dildo: He makes on fat pants
- 4 Vibrator with clit stimulator: It has two balls in play
- 5 Vibrator with G-spot stimulator: It finds the G-spot
- 6 Vibrator with silicone strap: triple seducer
- 7 Lay-on vibrator: laid on for clitoral fireworks
- 8 Pressure wave vibrator: it gets right to the point
- 9 Vibro egg: this egg is warm and soft bedded
- 10 Love Teddy: This one takes the cake
- 11 Finger vibrator: It makes the flutter man
- 12 Anal dildo: wagging is not
- 13 When to reach into the toolbox?
- 14 Summarized