Can you imagine sex without orgasm? Hard, or? This is exactly how women feel about sex without foreplay – it's part of good lovemaking for most of them. This is comparable to a good party night. This usually only becomes really intoxicating if you have previously grooved with your buddies for the night and have created a basis. And even during training your muscles won't forgive you if you start without a warm-up. The reason we make it so clear is so that it becomes immediately clear how important erotic foreplay is for the mood and the relationship.
Benefits of foreplay: why you should never skip foreplay
The decisive advantage beforehand: Play before the act is the absolute pleasure accelerator. But there are more arguments, why you should not renounce the warm-up. The 7 best reasons for foreplay:
1. During foreplay you can prove yourself
It sounds clumsier than it actually is. We don't think that you should reel off all your pampering skills during foreplay in order to be a hit with the lady of your heart. You inspire a woman (exceptions prove the rule)!) not by an up and down mix of finger and tongue techniques. Most women, however, are into generosity instead of the ego act. That is, the man is willing to devote himself first to the pleasure of his beloved before attending to his own needs.
2. Foreplay creates emotional closeness
Foreplay is intimate – almost more intimate than sex itself. It's all about kisses, the tiniest touches and reactions to them. You can watch live as your partner's arousal rises and act on her cues. This is how you get to know your beloved and her desire even better – and vice versa.
3. The overture makes her orgasm more likely
Not only does good foreplay make lubricant superfluous, it also ensures that the beloved can let herself go better. The more relaxed a woman is, the more likely she is to climax. In addition, a woman usually takes longer to reach orgasm than a man. Therefore, if you devote yourself to her first before the actual act, you increase the likelihood that you will reach climax together.
4. Foreplay can save your relationship
It's true: good foreplay can prevent relationship problems. Reason: If you give your sweetheart foreplay, you show her that you find her desirable and that her wishes are important to you.
5. Foreplay prolongs sex
Do you know this: You would love to do frivolous things with your sweetheart forever, but the erection puts a stop to it? There is a solution: prolong foreplay or always come back to the start in between to prolong the time together.
6. Foreplay avoids a lot of talking
No joke: foreplay can save you from unnecessary discussions with your partner in everyday life. If you know exactly how you can and should touch your lover during foreplay to get her hot right away, you will have an advantage over men who forego foreplay. The close bond (see point 2) you create during foreplay makes your partner less likely to take the demanding position (she feels understood and satisfied).
7. The warm-up offers room for sex experiments
Foreplay is one of the best opportunities to show your sweetheart what you'd like to try in bed or where you like touching best. Sex games, such as hot experiments with sex toys fit wonderfully into the foreplay (more on this later). But you can also whisper wishes such as anal sex or BDSM games in the ear of your beloved during the erotic overture.
How to make her hot – the 8 best ideas for foreplay
Enough theory! Time to get down to the practical stuff. Reasons why you should definitely take foreplay seriously, you now finally have enough. The most important thing is that you should not always reel off the same program, but surprise your sweetheart every now and then. We have a few hot ideas:
1. Make her hot with words
Foreplay doesn't just start with kissing or hot finger play. With words alone you can get your sweetheart in the mood. Comments have a lasting effect in situations where sex is not possible. For example, you are shopping with your sweetheart in the city and whisper in her ear: "Do you know what a sexy ass you have in those jeans?. I'd love to nibble". But text messages are also effective. Write her, for example, that you can hardly concentrate in the office because you constantly have to think about her lips. The effect of such literal signs of your desire is delayed – when you are both at home, she can hardly wait to give you what you desire.
2. Let looks speak
Can you turn a woman on with looks? You bet! "Positive anticipation is a big part of arousal for women," says Dr. Michael Sailer, sex therapist from Chicago. The mischievous look of a hot guy across the bar can make a woman lustful before he's even spoken a word. But this trick works not only in flirting, also in a longer partnership. Many couples do not look into each other's eyes for a long time anymore. Lay it on. Look long and hard into the eyes of your beloved (for example, when you wake up next to each other at the weekend). Don't do more than that – we promise, your beloved will seek your closeness all by herself.
3. Make each other wet
When was the last time you bathed or showered together? When was the last time you went to the wave pool or sauna with your partner? If you can't remember, you should refresh your memory as soon as possible. In fact, the hottest petting often takes place in the shower or at the edge of the pool. Lather the beloved under the warm water jet, show her with your eyes your admiration. We don't have to tell you how hungry you are for your sweetheart's body after the sauna – she's the same. The only rule in the sauna or swimming pool: concentrate only on her, if you look at other women, you will ruin the following sex.
4. Kissing is mandatory
Kissing is definitely the best way to get a woman in the mood. Especially in longer relationships, pleasurable tongue kisses are unfortunately often neglected – that's why it's not surprising that women are less likely to engage in seduction attempts. For many women, however, an intense kiss is almost better than sex itself – because it's very intimate. By covering your beloved with kisses all over her body, you also show her your appreciation.
5. Increase the skin contact
The skin is with about 2 square meters our largest sense organ and at the same time a huge erogenous zone. Women are even more sensitive to tactile stimuli than men are. Means: Without having to use your fingers or mouth, you can arouse the lady of your heart by mere skin contact. For example, by lying naked in bed together, you can create an electrifying tingling sensation. And with a massage you dedicate yourself to every part of your body – thereby releasing happiness hormones.
6. Demonstrate fingertip sensitivity
Start with barely perceptible touches. "By letting your fingers hover over the skin so that they just graze the fine hairs, you create a shower of delight in a woman – and make her feel like you desire every inch of her body," says Dr. Sailer. Stroke her hair back, let your fingertips hover over her skin. You're doing it right when your fingertips occasionally touch the skin very gently. Go for arms, breasts, belly and thighs one after the other. You feel when the beloved wants more. Then intensify the pressure and speed of the touches and venture into intimate places.
7. Let the tongue do its job
It's soft, warm and moist – the tongue is the most natural sex toy in the world and totally effective. It plays a leading role not only in kissing. She is also made for hot tongue games on the erogenous zones of your loved ones. There are no limits to your creativity when using this smooth sex toy. Don't just vary the spot you're pampering your lover, change the licking speed and pressure too.
8. Bring sex toys into play
Don't be afraid to take toys to bed with you. Vibrating attachments for the fingers can, for example, intensify touches on nipples and the vagina. Take your time to try out different toys together with fun. By the way, it's not just about the toys – women find spontaneity and humor particularly sexy in men.
Conclusion: Advantage through foreplay
Those who devote themselves to foreplay benefit in many ways.
Because the erotic warm-up not only ensures that the woman is in the mood and wet during the act, but also improves the bond between the partners. It's a simple principle: if you frequently touch your partner tenderly, she'll be happier and want to have sex more often.
But don't make the mistake of assuming that you'll know at some point what will turn your lover on and therefore always put on the same program – that quickly becomes boring, the moment of surprise makes the wow effect. By the way, you don't have to start with extensive foreplay every time you have sex – your sweetheart will remember what you're capable of. But invest in some good handwork now and then – it pays off!
- 1 Benefits of foreplay: why you should never skip foreplay
- 2 1. During foreplay you can prove yourself
- 3 2. Foreplay creates emotional closeness
- 4 3. The overture makes her orgasm more likely
- 5 4. Foreplay can save your relationship
- 6 5. Foreplay prolongs sex
- 7 6. Foreplay avoids a lot of talking
- 8 7. The warm-up offers room for sex experiments
- 9 How to make her hot – the 8 best ideas for foreplay
- 10 1. Make her hot with words
- 11 2. Let looks speak
- 12 3. Make each other wet
- 13 4. Kissing is mandatory
- 14 5. Increase the skin contact
- 15 6. Demonstrate fingertip sensitivity
- 16 7. Let the tongue do its job
- 17 8. Bring sex toys into play
- 18 Conclusion: Advantage through foreplay